WEDDING TIPPING GUIDE: WHO TO TIP AND HOW MUCH
Weddings are a time of celebration, but they can also bring about questions about the proper etiquette—especially when it comes to tipping wedding vendors. While tipping is not mandatory for all services, it is an important way to show appreciation for the hard work and dedication of the professionals who help bring your wedding vision to life. This guide will help you navigate who to tip and how much to give, ensuring that your gratitude is expressed appropriately.
1. Wedding Planner
Tip: 10-20% of their fee or a flat amount
When to Tip: If the wedding planner is not already receiving a set salary or commission, it’s customary to tip them at the end of the event or during the final stages of planning.
Why Tip: Your wedding planner is responsible for the smooth running of the entire event. Their tip reflects the complexity of their role and the effort they’ve put into the day.
2. Officiant
Tip: $50-$100 or a donation to their church or religious organization
When to Tip: After the ceremony or as a thank-you note or donation before the wedding.
Why Tip: While many officiants receive a fee for their services, a tip or donation is a way to show your gratitude for their role in making your ceremony special.
3. Photographer/Videographer
Tip: $50-$200 per person or 10-15% of the total bill
When to Tip: At the end of the event or after receiving the final photos or video.
Why Tip: These professionals are capturing your memories and making sure you can relive your wedding day for years to come. A tip shows your appreciation for their artistry and dedication.
4. Caterer/Waitstaff
Tip: 15-20% of the total catering bill (if a gratuity isn't already included)
When to Tip: Before or at the end of the event, depending on how the catering is set up.
Why Tip: The catering staff plays a significant role in ensuring your guests are well-fed and cared for. If the tip is not already included in your contract, giving them a gratuity shows you appreciate their hard work.
5. DJ/Band
Tip: $50-$150 for a DJ, $20-$50 per musician for a band
When to Tip: After the performance or at the end of the night.
Why Tip: These entertainers set the tone for your celebration. Tipping shows your appreciation for their energy, effort, and contribution to keeping the party going.
6. Hair and Makeup Artists
Tip: 15-20% of the total bill
When to Tip: At the end of your appointment, or after the wedding.
Why Tip: These professionals help you look and feel your best on your big day. A tip is a great way to show appreciation for their artistry and skill.
7. Florist
Tip: $50-$100 or 10% of the total bill
When to Tip: After the flowers are delivered or upon receiving the final bill.
Why Tip: Your florist is responsible for transforming your venue with beautiful arrangements, and tipping them acknowledges their creativity and hard work.
8. Transportation Drivers (Limo, Shuttle, etc.)
Tip: $25-$100 per driver
When to Tip: At the end of the ride or after the event.
Why Tip: The drivers help get you and your guests safely to and from the wedding. Tipping is a way to thank them for their service and for getting everyone to the venue on time.
9. Reception Staff (Coat Check, Bartenders, etc.)
Tip: $1-$2 per guest or $50-$100 per person if they are working long hours
When to Tip: After the reception or when the staff is helping with the event.
Why Tip: These staff members contribute to the smooth operation of the event and help ensure your guests are taken care of.
10. Clean-up Crew
Tip: $100-$300 depending on the size of the venue and amount of work
When to Tip: After the event when the venue staff is wrapping up.
Why Tip: These individuals are often behind the scenes, working hard to clean up after the celebration. Tipping them is a gesture of thanks for their effort in helping return the space to its original state.
11. Valet Parking
Tip: $1-$2 per car
When to Tip: As you drop off your car or pick it up.
Why Tip: The valet staff makes sure your guests’ cars are parked and ready when needed. A small tip helps acknowledge their service.
12. Baker
Tip: $50-$100
When to Tip: After the cake is delivered and set up.
Why Tip: The baker’s creation is one of the highlights of the reception. Tipping acknowledges the time and care that went into making your wedding cake.
Additional Tips for Tipping
Who to Tip: Don’t forget to check your contracts first. Many vendors already include gratuity in their contracts, so make sure you don’t tip twice.
How to Tip: Have cash ready for tips on the day of the wedding. Alternatively, you can ask your wedding planner or venue to help distribute tips for you.
Tipping Etiquette in LGBTQ+ Weddings In LGBTQ+ weddings, it’s important to feel comfortable with your decisions about tipping. The same etiquette applies: be sure to tip professionals who have provided excellent service, and tailor your approach to the unique nature of your celebration.
Wedding tipping is all about showing appreciation for the hard work and dedication that vendors put into making your day special. While tipping is optional in some cases, it’s a great way to express your gratitude for their role in your celebration. By following this guide, you’ll ensure that you don’t miss anyone important while keeping your wedding’s financial aspects in check.
